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The War: Between Spirit & Flesh: Emotions & Logic: Whose Winning?

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Emotions are a gift from God. When they are sufficiently intense, they take one on a trip to core of one’s soul! There the voice of emotion cries out for answers buried deep down in the pit of one’s gut! Eventually the intensity of the cry triggers and drives the mind to begin a search every cell demanding all doors be opened so answers can be found!

This is the place where the spirit of grace can lead one to look into the mirror of truth often for the first time in a very long time. Gut values can be laid out on table in plain view and examined not by just the emotions but by the logic our creator granted in the beginning. But so very often logic is subjected and confined to a prison as if it is the last place one will find hope.

When is really thirsty for an answer, they will look into this mirror of truth and then must confront the starkness of logic of truth given as a gift as a balance to emotions that simply rush to satisfy immediacy of a crises without a balancing partner with sufficient logic to address most fundamental and basic causes of the crises.

Fix a thing can not address the spiritual war raging within a humans mind!

All the laws were in place! All the responsible people were in place! The intent and emotional promise of young people by our leaders nixed any balanced encounter between emotions and logic! Every part of the national and local system with advertised good emotional intentions failed to protect the children and needs to laid bare on a table to be inspected by logic.

This is a chance to begin to teach our children how to pour out logic and not just emotions after a crises occurs? Emotions alone have the potential to make us cry and the potential to bury logic locking the door and throwing away the key to answers for broken people, broken families, and if it feels good culture that seeks to bury us and our children in a selfie world!

The Journey Includes Crushed and Broken: How to Survive?

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The reading this week used in prison. Elijah went a day’s journey into the desert, until he came to a broom tree and sat beneath it. He prayed for death saying:”This is enough, O LORD!
Take my life, for I am no better than my fathers.”

The desert a place no man controls! A place where nature can wraps it’s arms around man with an embrace of the reality of life and death. A place where the sun and wind can penetrate the soul of the man! A place where the spirit of the man can cry out from the depth’s of the soul where lie hidden the burdens and wounds inflicted from life and can be set free to the ears of the wind. A place where the voice of God who hears is carried on the wind can speak to the soul of the man bypassing his stiff neck and hardened heart and penetrate his soul.

He lay down and fell asleep under the broom tree,
but then an angel touched him and ordered him to get up and eat. Elijah looked and there at his head was a hearth cake
and a jug of water.

After he ate and drank, he lay down again,
but the angel of the LORD came back a second time,
touched him, and ordered,
“Get up and eat, else the journey will be too long for you!”
He got up, ate, and drank; then strengthened by that food,
he walked forty days and forty nights to the mountain of God, Horeb.

Forty – the extraordinary amount of time it takes before the heart and neck of man can be healed of stubbornness of a self appointed God!

Crushed and broken is the bread of life that man might have life more abundantly!

Will Emotion Override and Cloud the Spirit’s Path to Logic and Truth?

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I listened to a young man pour out his emotions as he spoke on TV about the terror and trauma he experienced during the mass shootings that took place at the Parkland High School in Broward County, Florida.   It was gut wrenching to listen to.  My heart was torn as I listened as his words.  It caused me think of my own children and grand children.

Emotions are a vital part of our human condition.  More than that they are truly a gift from our creator.  Emotions serve as the only source capable of taking a human on a journey to the core of our soul where we encounter our human values.  But more importantly, they take us on a journey so we can see ourselves face to face as in a mirror.  It is as if we must be dragged kicking and screaming into a Garden long ago set aside as the place where blo0d is sweat as the human heart engages the battle where emotions attempt to drive us away from looking into the mirror of truth.  Said another way, emotions seek to focus on a simple solution rather than confront the ancient symbolism hidden in a seamless garment.  The truth of the temple of our soul is intimately connected to the human search for the purpose of a people so loved they have been granted free will.  The pain of emotions can distort truth as one who seeks to avoid the journey to the only source with the potential to wash the human family clean and make us whole again.

Hold on to that image of the seamless garment for within it’s creation lies the secret of one who is willing to offer up life as the price of penetrating the human heart and restoring mobility to a stiff neck!  The truth found in the blood found on the ground speaks to a hope beyond measure!

Here in this mirror lies a treasure, a gift from our creator where the real possibility exists to confront and overcome human natures original sin!  Sin the modern world seeks to ignore and worse deny!  In this mirror the image and likeness of our creator one cannot  ignored or escape!  The source of truth is dimly lit to a new arrival and the values buried within are designed to lead us to the truth in the beginning hearken to a soul thirsting and longing for an answers!  Here in this garden of agony one encounters the potential to ingest the breath of ancient truths again as in the first time.  Emotions erupt from deep within our gut as they crawl upward into our heart and mind creating the only unrest that can open the door that can lead to the search for hope we can find again the sacredness and treasure of life!  The question is  will take the time necessary to endure the journey to the core of our soul where we can encounter the spirit and wisdom that created us.  It is in the deeps of our soul where emotion can be balanced with the gifts of logic, wisdom, understanding of the purpose of the creator’s plan that calls people to freely choose the journey with the potential usher in real hope for a healthy human family.

A gun on the other hand is just metal and cold.  It has no spirit, no emotions and cannot make a decision.  It can not pick itself up, load itself or pull it’s trigger.  It lacks warmth or breath.  A gun has no emotions and cannot reflect upon anything that happens to it or it’s impact on any living being.  Why are we investing so much time on an inanimate object with no potential to save us?

As I listened to this young man, I too was sent on a journey to the core of my soul and began to ask the spirit in the mirror questions.  Who was this young man who picked up that gun?  What happened to him?  Who were his parents and how did he get that gun?  What questions are being asked about this young man and his environment?  Guns were allowed in school when I was a kid and this kind of event never took place.  What has changed?

Can we examine the seamless garment without being executed?  Do we really have an understanding of who we were created to be?  Is our focus on an inanimate object or the core of the soul of humanity?

If you made it thus far, will you come with me on a journey through the flawed memories of a child beginning to digest and grasp at the seamless garment and how it runs through the whole of humanity where not a single soul is without impact?

Is anyone willing to ask, have all the political attacks over the past several years on the police had an impact?  he alone the associated demand for body cameras?  Have we  pushed our policemen into political correct precautionary non life saving behaviors?  Someone with courage needs to be willing to ask?  Have our emotions and power agendas overridden our ability to have courage under fire?

How about the violence in so many neighborhoods?  How about the self inflicted wounds of gender-ism?  Isn’t the DNA we are born with the DNA we will die with?  Did God make a mistake when he created us?  Is there something else in play?  Have we now declared ourselves to be God?  How about the breakdown of families?  How about the destruction of life for those who cannot speak?  How about a feminist movement that does not include mothers?  How about the stripping of a mans ancient obligation to the mother and their children?   In the beginning God created man and woman and it was good.  The two became one flesh.  Abortion kills not only the child but the father for the two are no longer one flesh!

Do we have any real men in political life?

Why are so many people today taking drugs for everything?  Why are TV commercial’s full of advertisements for new drugs?  Does a pill correct every situation?  Do our brain’s work any more?  Why do we want to stop letting boys be boys?  Why are so many young men in prison and why are they so angry with their parents?  Why are we afraid to ask these questions?

When I was a kid we allowed prayer to be taken out of school about the time I finished.  We allowed abortion to begin to flourish at about the same time.   Why do our politicians support the abortion of 60 million babies and then insist we need 60 million immigrants?

Does anyone recognize the abortion decision declared a death sentence on a father’s right to protect his children?  Do gun free so called safe zones override the right of a father to protect his child from a principal whose policies do not report crimes which undermines the law intended to keep guns out of the hands of individual’s with histories of violence?  Are our police and sheriff’s bullied by the politically correct and unwittingly unleashed the violent and mentally unstable on society.  Has politics destroyed common sense?  Have we become so smart and tolerant that we are now become our own worst enemy?  Have we declared that sin is dead and people are just misunderstood?

Have we allowed a judge to override the voice of the people?  Have we allowed a judge to declare the father of a child has no rights even in a marriage?  Why do we want to destroy men and the potential father many are created to become?  What has this done to our children and does anyone care what the the impact is on children and family?  Is anyone looking at the success of children brought up in a traditional family versus the new so called norm?

About the time I was just a kid contraception exploded.  I thought it was good!  Has anyone opened their eyes lately?  Is sex no longer about children?  Have we advertised the impact of contraception on the human breakdown of the family?  Divorce has sky rocked.  Single parenthood in many neighborhoods is 70% and higher.  What is the emotional cost and impact on children from all of these changes?  Our prisons are overflowing with angry, upset young men most from single parents homes.  Discipline in schools is major growing problem.

Are we in denial about the nature of our humanity and natures use of hormones?  Do we not know what takes place year in and year out in natures survival of life?  In many parts of our world cultures are approaching self annihilation because of the refusal to birth children.  Anyone talking about the death of Christianity by those who [profess to be Catholic’s and Christians.  Who has muted the voices of our Bishops and Religious leaders?

Has anyone noticed the changes that have taken place over the years in Hollywood, TV, movies, entertainment and video game industry.  Do they glorify violence and shoot em up adventures?  Is promiscuous and raw sex displayed as normal?  How about the impact of the internet, the smart phone and sexting?  And what about the explosion of porn – the objectification of women, children and sex?

We have become a people who lack the courage to ask ourselves tough questions!  What is the stumbling block that prevents us from asking the tough questions that affect people with the potential to pick up and use a gun?  Why are we so afraid to ask these questions?

What is a safe zone?  Shouldn’t a mothers womb the safest zone every created.  Ask a small kid?  Who is the enemy of that zone?  Is it a gun or is it man?

Aren’t a mother and a father supposed to be the protectors of their children with the duty and responsible to assure their safety?  Who overrode those parental rights?  Why do we entrust our children to people who have allowed the children to run the school?   What system or systems in Broward County failed the students and faculty in that school?  Do we not know our government has encouraged the non reporting of violent crimes in schools?  If you see something – say something!  Did that work?  And what is the FBI doing these days – does anyone know?  So how can a system based upon reported crimes prevent someone from purchasing a gun when the system rewards non reporting?  Have emotions overtaken and all bet eliminated logic and leadership?

My brother tried every kind of drug while he was in college.  He took his own life!  So we ant to legalize pot!  Emotion has overridden logic!  What about all the drugs people are using today?  Is anyone paying attention?  Can we ask?  What is the drug overdose rate today?  Does anyone notice all the drug commercials on TV?  What is our society selling – a quick fix – just take a pill?

And we have just entered the arena of social media and new technology?  What about social media?  Will the children of the future develop social skills to interact with people face to face?  What again about the deterioration of the family and why is it children with a mother and father are so much more successful on average?   Do we have the courage to ask the questions that we get to the heart of the problem or have our emotions trapped us in a dialogue with a gun issue?

Folks, we have a culture problem.  Our values are in the toilet!  It’s time for our emotions to take on a trip back to source when we look ourselves in the mirror of truth so the door of hope is opened and we can begin again to reach for the full potential of the gift of life!

Finally, does anyone know that true love will piss of an awful lot of people?  Didn’t the people of his own family take the one who came to testify to the true to a cross?  Weren’t they jealous and envious of his courage to speak the truth?  And they didn’t like the way he preached because it forced them to look into the mirror of truth!  So I ask, do we modern day sophisticated people really want to hear the good news or do we just want happy talk?

Self examination in the deeps of ones soul is where forgiveness and healing begin.  Love one another as I loved you!  Lord have mercy!

The Greatest Gift of Getting Old

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The very best part of getting old is watching children and grand children discover the beauty of the Christmas spirit. We live in a world that seeks to sterilize young people and worships at the devils altar of self pleasure luring folks to believe selfish pleasures will sustain the young into thinking they found happiness while forsaking the greatest gift and adventure a human can ever give – the birth of a child who will teach them again like it was the first time about the discovery of new life everywhere!

Gosh I wish I could penetrate hearts bent on a purposely chosen baron relationship with no possibility of participating in the greatest artistic gift – the creation of a baby that draws one outside of self into an adventure with the possibility of forgetting self for a greater cause and finding where true happiness lives when one gives oneself away to the possibility of new life!

2016 Pagan God Ba’al

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Ba’al is the pagan god of the old testament. Ba’al seems very much alive in our world today. It is strange that Ba’al would attain a title as the god of fertility because the worship of Ba’al was accompanied by the sacrifice of children by their parents. The altar for Ba’al worship has become the place where fertility takes place in the creation of new life and exists within the mothers womb. Ba’al repeatedly revels what kind of god he is as the practice of sacrificing children is being perfected in the dismembering of a babies body parts only to be outdone when a baby is delivered whole so the body parts can be dismembered more efficiently thus becoming more valuable. Ba’al loves that people pay the price to destroy new life for it is the price we pay to keep Ba’al alive who cannot live without those willing sacrifice ones own soul.

Ba’al has created another non living being to trick and distract those who might begin to recognize Ba’al is really a god who stays alive by bringing death to the living. We call this device a smart phone which seizes it’s victim and takes them for a joy ride through a new reality of cyber space which often excludes an encounter with any other living being. Ba’al has created and has claimed a new nick name – in fact it made it into our national dictionary = “selfie”. For Ba’al knows as long as people stay occupied with the inner space of self they volunteer to disable eyes, ears and spirit to see beyond selfie. Keep them on inside time and entertained is Ba’al goal. Avoid any suffering real life brings so the story of the true God never reaches the ears of worshipers. Avoid at all costs the search for the truth and the purpose of life. Ba’al knows suffering and hardship lead one to dig deep which can result in crying out and thirsting for answers. Worse it could lead to the possibility of committing the mortal sin of becoming open. Spread lies over and over and over to detour people from opening ones critical thinking capacity and cut off the spirit which can lead one to beginning to seek to find the purpose for which one was really created – to encounter life more abundant by reaching out beyond oneself and giving the gift of oneself away to someone else – which just might spread loving and serving others who are struggling through the journey of life.

Ba’al will do anything to avoid and encounter with the story of the first born son who on the cross said – “Forgive them Father for they know not what they are doing!”.

Marriage – Theology of the Body

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In scripture The Lord of Hosts makes reference to the motif of spousal love and marriage. Where Christ is the bridegroom or male and the church is the bride or female. From the beginning the word spousal has a singular meaning which can only be satisfied when two people, one male (husband) and the other female (wife) marry. God the spokesperson of this truth, speaks as Creator of new life and Redeemer to new life. The marriage relationship in scripture always assumes the one flesh potential for the creation of new life. The terminology used is designed to help the people of faith know how to respond to God in faith. To destroy the meaning of the word spouse as male and female serves to confuse the fullness of truth and who the source of life is itself.

The marriage of a man and woman is a primordial building block (from the beginning) that serves as the defining mystery and pathway to salvation. One is called to give the gift of self in a manner that creates new life. That which can be seen yet remain hidden.

My feeble attempt to grasp St. John Paul II teaching on the Theology of the Body.

Aunt Hope

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I had an Aunt Hope! She had seven children – I lost count because I left home. She was a wise woman and really knew where “Hope” resides. She was Christian and Catholic – obviously she had a bunch of beautiful children. Hope knew where hope lives! It lives in the spirit of truth, revealed in the life of the one who came at Christmas. Hope can abound in each and every person willing to open themselves to the risk of loving others.

Those searching for hope – please search your heart for the doorway placed there at birth! You will know it when you find it – it looks like a mirror reflecting the image of God and can only be detected in the twinkle of ones eye when they have found it!

A Star is Born

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Today is January 6th, 2017. Epiphany – an extraordinary “Ah Ha” moment. Little did I notice when my oldest son was born on January 6, 1968 at Kadena AFB Okinawa. We lived in a second floor apartment off base near Naha AFB. When we brought our son home, my wife got out of the car and went upstairs to the apartment. I got my son out of the car. I looked up and it was a crystal clear night with a million stars shinning brightly in the night. I lifted my son high above my head and offered him to the creator of life more abundant. I will give back to you what you gave to me this night! I carried a vocation card in my wallet for 27 years remembering my son and the dream of that night. God is tricky – he called my son to be the most independent rascal I have ever known. A gift to the world and willing to walk on his own two feet. And to me he gave a calling that floated on the wings form the spirit of that night and continues this day. In 1995 I no longer needed to carry that card any longer for I had been captured. Yep He sets us up long before we begin to detect who we were called to be! I wish all an “Ah Ha” gift to all – – ponder life’s precious gifts and the creative trickery of a God who reveals his spirit in the breath of the wind upon ones cheek!

God made Men and Women

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God made women to be superior at being a women. God man man to be superior at being a man. God made men and women with free will so they could freely chose to enter into the most intimate relationship where one could simply not do without the other – become one flesh – from which God’s greatest treasure to the world is created – a child – new life – hope for the future which depends upon the love of creator mom and dad one spirit!

Marriage – One Flesh?

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In this world today can marriage be discussed without being called homophobic if one supports traditional and a religious marriage?

Those who honestly seek objective truth these days is hard to find these days.  Not a single person walking the face of the earth was created without having a female mother and male father.  Not a single one!  Sex without the potential to create new life is not a marriage in the eyes of God – all it is without the open possibility to create new life is fulfill self gratification!

Further marriage is a contract that unites a male, a female and the intimate act that creates children into the building blocks of something greater than self.  We call it the church and civil society.  Change this formula and what results is sex for self gratification without the potential to create new life and at that point it doesn’t who one partner is.

The Christian concept of marriage is not confusing – it is clearly laid out “In the beginning – Genesis”. God made man – male and female he created them. He didn’t make a mistake – it was good. Bone of my bone and flesh of they were to become one.  The two were created to become one flesh and only united together can they create new life. They were called to enter into an intimate and vulnerable encounter – one flesh cooperating with the spirit of God entered into a partnership with God with the real possibility of creating a new life in the image of God and then with the commitment to nurture that new life for years to come – a child.  A third human being was not required.   That’s what a Christian marriage is – a man and a women open to the creation of new life – it is procreative. 

This truth is not prejudice or bigoted – it is simply the truth.

Every human person is a gift and each is called to give themselves away for God created them for a purpose and that purpose is to discover God’s will and purpose for which they were created.  Always to testify to the creation of new life – the truth and to live life fully to testify to that truth.

Christians know it didn’t take the first humans long to get into trouble with the desire to play God. Things got messy fast in the garden so we should not be surprised that humans in our modern day society approach the tree of knowledge with lightning speed and some even think they own the tree and can redefine the truth any way they want and change the truth anytime they decide.

God created men and women different on purpose. So they would be dependent upon one another and their survival would be dependent upon the mutual gift of self = through an intimate act of love that would require sacrifice.  Every human has a mother and a father. Unfortunately our modern day intellectual society – tough many are well intended people – well society seems to be making bigger and bigger mess.  We seem blinded to the self destruction taking place all around us – we have many who appear to be throw away people especially those who are old and the unborn who have no voice.  So many say life matters but do nothing to address the war taking place in the womb of mothers the soul of our future nation and the world. Many seem hell bent on destroying truth our only source of salvation, rather than marching into the mess created by broken families and those communities at war within themselves.  Who is working to heal all the brokenness being created by self truth?

If you would like an eye opener come with me to prison – I will introduce you to many young people who are angry as hell because they know deep inside their spirit they are supposed to have a mother and a father who were called to love them and every child knows discipline is love.

Sorry it’s not all about you – it’s not about the selfie generation of today. It is and has always been about about God’s love and truth from which we can hide but never our spirits can never escape.

When are we going to grow up spiritually and ask what the hell is our society doing to mothers and fathers who are supposed to form families and what have we done to the one flesh concept God gave us that every life is sacred? We seem more interested in setting free the one who seeks to destroy us – the one who says it all about me – my world – my life and come with me on a trip to hell?

Look at what humanity is doing to itself – we have declared war on the safe haven of the womb of mothers.  We are invading it with tactics designed to destroy the gift of the one flesh union and take the life of babies while dismembering their bodies for profit.  We have divided the house of marriage against ourselves and our future.  But we are not done sinking into hell as some are seeking to take the body whole for the profit margin tempts us to ignore God’s truth.

When a woman alone, has the right to destroy an unborn child alone, what must also die?  God’s plan for creation of one flesh, the father, the marriage of male and female must also be sacrificed by the female the one who God created to be the single source and birth channel for new life and the future of humanity.

Who have we become?